Let me start off by saying...
I have PCOS.
I was diagnosed when I was 13 years old and, at the time, I just thought it meant-no aunt flow.
WRONG! It meant that I was going to be on and off birth control for years. Just so I could have a "normal" period. I had no idea at 13 that I was going to have this much trouble getting pregnant. I know that having PCOS isn't the end of the world and that lots of women have had babies with it. Well, lucky them because they aren't me so don't give me examples of so-and-so's sister who had a baby with it.
No, we haven't been trying for years...
but it still hurts everytime I see that single pink line. Don't make my struggle any less because I haven't been trying as long as you. Whether is 3, 6, 8, or 12 months I still want to be a mother and my body didn't get the memo from health class. I give kudos to all the couples that try for so long and have the courage to deal with it everyday but give me a break.
You're only 23...
And your point? Yes, I am young and I know I have a lot more growing up to do but when you already were told you have a 30% chance of getting pregnant, it doesn't make it any easier. Age is not a definition of fertility, just a guideline that my body was supposed to follow.
You're going to be an aunt again...
Awesome. I am so happy for you both! I have a smile on my face but my heart is breaking on the inside. Don't get me wrong, I AM happy for you. I'm just unhappy for us. We want to be able to say "We're Pregnant!" We want to be able to come up with a creative way to tell our parents they are going to be Nana and Papa. I keep that smile on my face for hope. So if we're quiet while everyone is gushing about your pregnancy, it isn't you or the baby, it's us. I am trying to cope with the fact that we may never have that opportunity.
I got off birth control and was pregnant a week later...
Good for you. You have beautiful children because of it. Please spare me your success story after I've been off the pill for months and still no baby. I don't know how many examples of that I have gotten in the last year. It takes all I can not to slap you in the face. I mean, seriously, I was on the pill to have a period not just prevent pregnancy. Now I find out after 6 months of "trying" that I am not ovulating that means-no eggs! Imagine my outrage when I was told that by my OB/GYN. All the years I wasted, all the money. I figured it up and the last 4 years of being on the pill cost me, (20 a month [times] 4years=$960). And that is just for the years I was with my husband before we decided we wanted to be parents. I could have used that money for something else since I obviously wasn't going to get pregnant anyway!
Well, you must not want it bad enough then...
STOP! I have wanted to be a mother for years but I chose to wait. I don't want to drain my savings. If that's someone else's choice, then that's just it...someone else. I don't want to put that much strain on my marriage because I have to put up with him for the rest of my life and I want to be able to do that. I know what my financial situation is, not you. I know what my marriage can handle and what it can't, you don't. Don't judge me just because you were able to choose how many children you wanted when I can't even get one.
We are not selfish. We chose to draw the line because, well, we're all we have. When all is said and done-that's it. Even if we do have children, in the end, he's going to be by my side on that front porch in a rocking chair. I love him and he loves me. It was not an easy decision. It took many hours, sleepless nights, and countless tears for us to decide...I have you and that's enough for me if this next procedure doesn't work. Please, just offer a hug and a heartfelt "I'm sorry to hear that." That support is enough.
http://www.resolve.org/infertility101
http://www.resolve.org/takecharge
